Today’s post is a little different to the usual Coco Mama style and discusses whether we don’t make enough effort, or even try too hard to look and feel good about ourselves.
Elle Macpherson isn’t shy of doing the school run in tight leather trousers and it’s been suggested she makes too much effort for this daily event. But she works and she’s The Body, so surely she’s dressing to suit her lifestyle, regardless of her mum status. The same goes for Victoria Beckham. She’s a designer, so she dresses appropriately for her work. If she is comfortable in a fitted frock and vertiginous heels while carrying little Harper, why shouldn’t she?
So here’s the question…
Should we dress down now that we’re mums? Are we meant to blend into the background that is motherhood, because anything that makes us stand out suggests we’ve neglected our children to look that way?
What is it that makes us judge each other? We’re judged for ‘letting ourselves go’ but also judged for making too much effort. If you work a dressed-down look these days and you’re comfortable and confident, why should anyone assume you’ve let yourself go. What if you’re just content in your new role as you are. On the other hand, if you have the time to don make-up, grab a gel manicure, wash (or dry shampoo) your hair and put on an outfit that isn’t just thrown on in a mad rush and, heaven forbid, involves heels, does that make you a bad mother, for spending too much time on yourself?
Every mother has her own issues, anxieties or struggles to deal with behind closed doors, so if she chooses to dress a certain way whether that be to dress up or down, why should anyone else judge her?
The purpose of this website was (and still is) to inspire mums (myself included) to feel like the ‘old you’, back in the days BB (before babies). While explaining this to a fellow mother she suggested she had ‘never been stylish so it definitely doesn’t apply’ to her. There is a feeling that some of us don’t feel worthy of time for ourselves, however brief.
Style shouldn’t be about slavishly following fads, nor feeling bad for not keeping up with the look du jour. It isn’t even necessarily about dressing for others, so instead let’s turn the focus to what makes us feel comfortable and confident. Yes, those track pants may be comfy but do you feel confident about yourself in them? If yes, great, you’ve achieved the goal! If not, it won’t make you a bad mum to want to take a little time to get yourself looking and therefore feeling good.